Do you have erectile dysfunction (ED)?
I had it twice (I am 40)
Both times it was porn-induced erectile dysfunction (PIED)
And in this article, I will share my experiences so that you can see whether you resonate with my loss of erection
I will tell you how I healed my erection problems
And if that helps you with your soft erection, that’s great
But if it doesn’t, consider seeing a doctor for your
That way, you will ensure you don’t have any physical cause of erectile dysfunction
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Stuck in the cycle of EDs ❓
Today you have way more challenges than your grandfather or father had
First, testosterone is on the decline in American men (and likely across the world as well)
In a 2007 study, they found a substantial age-independent decline in testosterone that does not appear to be attributable to observed changes in explanatory factors
Testosterone is a key hormone that defines your manliness
As well as your libido and weak erection
That’s how guys today end up with erectile dysfunction in 20s
But why is it happening?
We go through a cycle of EDs:
Endless Distractions
The first ED is Endless Distractions
We are bombarded by distractions all day long
We are expected to be online 24/7 and respond quickly
There are tons of content that fight for our attention (and it’s so easy to succumb)
For example, porn is a huge distraction
It is so available that it’s hard to ignore
Distractions mean stress
Stress causes the body to create more cortisol, the stress hormone
The more cortisol it produces, the less testosterone we have because the body makes both of these hormones from the same precursor, pregnenolone
Environmental Disaster
The second ED is Environmental Disaster
Our environment puts huge pressure on us compared to 50 years ago
We have more toxins, water and air pollution, and pesticides
They attack our body, causing inflammation
And inflammation makes us age faster
That’s why a 20-year-old today can have a testosterone level of a 60-year-old
Endocrine Disruption
The third ED is Endocrine Disruption
The endocrine system is a complex network of glands and organs
It uses hormones to control and coordinate your body’s metabolism, energy level, reproduction, growth and development, and response to injury, stress, and mood
I already mentioned stress
There’s also sleep disruption due to disrupted circadian rhythm:
We don’t get regular sleep hours. We sleep less. The quality of sleep is lower
These are huge factors that impact your hormone levels negatively
I cut my sleep seriously in 2018
I had this crazy thought that I would get up as soon as I would up at night
Because I supposedly already got enough sleeping
(I was blind to the fact that I would wake up in the middle of the night just because of an urge to pee)
So I started to get up at 2 a.m. or even 1 a.m.
I was getting just 3 or 4 hours of sleep
And I felt tired, lousy, and unmotivated
Could hell be any worse?
As a result, my endocrine system took a huge hit:
- My testosterone went down
- My libido decreased
- I got dry skin and brittle hair
You know where I am heading with these EDs
Porn induced erectile dysfunction
These factors combine to create Erectile Dysfunction
When I had an episode of erectile dysfunction in 2008:
- I felt tired
- I didn’t feel like a man
- I felt depressed
At that point, my wife decided we had to conceive
(I was so depressed that I simply checked out mentally and let her make the decision)
So we kept trying but nothing happened
And I had a weak erection all the time
She had to work hard to get me aroused (but she was motivated)
I saw a doctor and started a regimen that improved my erection and sperm quality
Finally, we were able to conceive (and now I am so thankful for my son Denis who is 12 years old)
Later I was able to rebound
I got myself out of depression
I started improving myself in general
This is the fifth ED and a positive one: Endless Development
Endless Development
This is my strategy to combat all these negative EDs and PIED (Erectile Dysfunction) in particular
I made personal growth a priority
- I exercise every day
- I eat a healthy diet (healthy fats, moderate protein, no sugar)
- I am also on a mental diet, feeding my mind with positive information all the time
- I am very intentional about loving my girlfriend
This regimen helps me create a body and a mindset that support my goals
And I don’t have erectile dysfunction anymore
With that said, let’s look at some other things I do mindset-wise to avoid erectile dysfunction
Mindset tip #1 for ED cure: Erection is a reflection
I had mild depression in 2008 and 2009
I felt miserable
I would then watch porn and television, wasting entire days at a time
At the same time, my ex-wife decided we had to have a baby
And I had a hard time getting hard when it came to sex
I felt bad about myself all the time
And I literally felt there was no mental and physical energy in me to drive a strong erection
That was psychogenic erectile dysfunction
I even had to see a urologist to improve my energy (and erection) with supplements
Finally (and thankfully), I got my wife pregnant
And now we have a 12-yeard-old son
But thinking about this, I had this realization:
Erection is a reflection of my energy as a man
Here’s how it works:
As a man, I need to feel I have the world by the balls
That’s when I feel good about yourself
I feel confident and empowered
And the reason is that whenever I accomplish a challenging task, my testosterone goes up
I literally feel like penetrating reality with my masculine energy
That positive mindset destroys any psychological erectile dysfunction
Conversely, when I am lazy and watch porn, I can’t feel good about myself
I feel guilty and self-conscious
That weak mindset translates into a weak erection—erectile dysfunction
Mindset tip #2 for ED cure: Develop discipline
There’s beauty in doing the right thing
Whenever I do the wrong thing, I feel sad and unmotivated
This happened to me all the time when I used to watch porn
I would have a PMO session and feel weak and uninspired afterward
In that state, I was prone to loss of erection
But whenever I do the right thing such as not watching porn, my willpower goes up
And then in an inspired state, I get a boost of sexual energy, translating into a stronger erection
My willpower gets stronger and so does my erection
When I do the right thing such as pushing myself in exercise, I feel inspired
The person who does the right thing also inspires everyone around them
You remind them of the potential they have in them, too
As a result, they also have a strong erection (just kidding )
The thing to understand is that you have to do what you have to do, always and without complaint.
Deeply Odd by Dean Koontz
Mindset tip #3 for ED cure: Give yourself time to get comfortable with a girl
When I got my first girlfriend, it was difficult for me to start having sex with her
See, I had been in love with her for about 1 year before we started dating (I was 21 at the time)
I had put her on a pedestal
I thought she was the most beautiful thing in the world
And sex would somehow be too “dirty” for an “angel” like her
Of course, I was wrong and I didn’t share my thoughts with anyone
So no one could laugh in my face and say that I was crazy
With this kind of thinking, I spent about two months not enjoying sex
I could not get hard
And whenever I would get an erection, I would lose it quickly
I thought I had an erectile dysfunction
I also felt self-conscious
Thankfully, my girlfriend was very understanding
After two months, I got used to being intimate with her
And this is when I realized how great and beautiful sex actually was
Immediately, my psychological impotence went away
So if you have a weak erection, give yourself time to get used to having sex when it’s your first time having sex
Mindset tip #4 for ED cure: Go 100% Porn-Free
Finally, I’d suggest going porn-free for at least 30 days
When you wean yourself off pornography, you’ll see whether you have a porn-induced erectile dysfunction
If yes, then you know what to do
If not, it’s time to see a doctor and dig further with them
Now, when it comes to quitting porn to improve your weak erection, I can help
Since 2020, I’ve been helping people as a porn detox coach
I can help you in three ways:
- Take the basic version of Go 100% Porn-Free Course on Udemy, version 1.0. Since 2021, it’s been helping people create a system to follow for 30 days. At $20, this is the most affordable option.
- Take the full version of the course in my Academy. At $99, this is the most cost-effective option. And the most popular.
- Or take the full version of the course + 2 coaching sessions with me. At $299, this is the most costly version.
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