I’ve Been Porn-Free for 8 Years (And This Is How Amazing It Feels)

Do you feel porn is holding you back in life?

Are you wasting time on online images?

Do you see that watching pornography leads you nowhere?

Then you want to go porn-free

Instead of searching for “free porn”

Porn-free means waste-free and regret-free

Whereas porn-full means waste-full and regret-full

Welcome to version 2.0 of your life ❗

Who am I to talk about going porn-free?

My name is Roman Mironov

I used to be addicted to porn in my teenage years and twenties

Because of watching pornography, I wasted a lot of time and potential

I also shamed myself for porn and became sociophobic

I didn’t start to develop social skills early enough

As a result, I was timid and awkward in social interactions

Later, I even murdered my marriage because I never knew how to treat my wife well

And I even kept watching porn for prolonged periods while married

Clearly, my porn-full life (version 1.0) was a mess

After my wife had divorced me, I realized I could no longer go on like that

I’ve been porn-free for years and now live version 2.0 of my life

Waste-free and regret-free

I am also passionate about helping others go porn-free

Here’s what others say about my coaching

That said, let me dig deeper into how porn influenced my life

“Porn-full” version of my life

Back in 2008, I had a mild depression:

  • My dog died accidentally, and I was young and had hard time accepting the loss
  • My relationship with my wife went sour. I kept giving her the silent treatment, trying to mold her into what I wanted

I developed this pattern of thinking:

I would wake up in the morning and feel good

And then my mind would immediately go: “No, no, no ❗ You shouldn’t feel good. Remember about the dog/wife?”

That way, I would literally disallow myself to feel good

I would start feeling depressed

Of course, I wanted to distract myself from that feeling of depression

What could that distraction be?

With my history of porn-watching, I quickly went to porn as my go-to tool

It gave me 15 or 30 minutes of blessed oblivion

And I had to use it again and again to escape my depression

That’s how porn-full I was back then

“Waste-full” version of my life

Porn addiction caused me to waste so much

I was growing up without the Internet

That was 1990s in Russia

On the one hand, that was a blessing because I didn’t have the access that people have to porn today

On the other hand, I wasted more time on looking for porn

It was a challenge for me back then

I couldn’t reach out to anyone for porn, even to my friends

After all, I was ashamed of my addiction

Instead, I would go to these stores or small kiosks that sold pirated copies of movies

And there would always be a porn section

(The movies would come as VHS tapes)

I would stare at those tapes for very long

I think people in those stores saw me as a total creep ❗

Finally, I would summon the courage and ask them to show me one of the movies

Funny enough, those were always soft porn movies

And I could never tell whether it was hardcore or softcore porn

Because on the back of those tapes, the images were blurred at the right spots

So I would imagine that I could see the real action there—after all, that’s why you hid it in the first place

But after buying a tape, I would always find that it was softcore porn

I would be so disappointed

That’s how I spent hours of my time

Looking back, it almost makes me cry

That is such a waste of human time and potential

And that’s what porn addiction does to people

“Regret-full” version of my life

I remember walking my dog once on a trail along the river

I was about 15 years old

It was a pretty remote place

And I saw a car parked there

As I walked by the car, I realized that a couple was having sex there

I got so excited that I almost lost all control of myself

That’s how badly I wanted to see the action

After all, I was obsessed with sex and had zero of it in my life

I tied my dog to the tree and came back to the car so that I could watch the action

I sneaked around the car trying to be quiet and unobtrusive

And I watched for as long as I could go unnoticed

Looking back now, I regret the time lost that time and those times when I watched porn

I regret the time spent devouring the images of other people having sex

Instead of working on creating sex in my own life

Real sex and real love that come with the NoFap lifestyle

This porn-full, waste-full, and regret-full version of my life was hell

Thankfully, I was able to break free from porn and realize the version 2.0 of my life

Welcome to the porn-free version of my life!

Thankfully, I’ve been able to quit porn

As I began my porn detox, I realized that porn addiction made me behave like an animal

An animal is guided in its life by instincts only

If a male dog is horny, it goes crazy and looks for sex relentlessly

That’s a shallow level of living

And I felt that I was strictly at the same level while craving and watching porn

I would have an urge to watch porn and submit to the urge compulsively

My behavior was 100% compulsive and based on the sexual instinct

These instincts are powerful and helpful because they make sure we survive

They come from our primal brain

But it is the ability to use something beyond the primal brain that helped humans stand above all other species

It is our prefrontal cortex responsible for rational decisions

I didn’t want to act like an animal—compulsively and from my primal brain

I didn’t want to be like a god that runs around crazily looking for sexual gratification, with its tongue sticking out

I made it my goal to live from my prefrontal cortex

This realization about my porn cravings helped me realize I had the power to break free

It wasn’t easy, for sure

My primal brain was powerful and kept luring me into watching porn

But I kept conditioning it until I tamed it in this area

That’s how I started the waste-free version of my life—version 2.0

Waste-free version of my life

I used to waste a lot of time on porn

After quitting porn, all that time went into positive things:

  • Looking for the “perfect scene” Working out
  • Masturbating Developing additional income sources
  • Sitting alone in my room Getting better at dating
  • Fighting urges in my head Reading
  • Browsing reddit for solutions Working on my business

And more importantly, I stopped shaming myself for porn-watching

See, I was caught in this cognitive dissonance

  • I didn’t want to be a porn-watcher and masturbator
  • But I still did it, and it was killing me

Porn-free, I no longer spend hours guilting myself for each PMO episode

I don’t feel this bitterness in me

Regret-free version of my life

I regret those years when porn was holding me back

Specifically, 5 years from 16 to 21 when I should’ve dated and developed relationship skills

I remember sitting alone in my room

Dreaming about having a girlfriend

And wondering why I don’t have one while I have so much love to give

Finally, I would pity myself so much that I would go to porn for consolation

Yes, it gave me 15 minutes of quick happiness

But after those 15 minutes had passed, I’d feel even those compared to where I had started

Now I would have self-pity and self-guilt

After giving up porn at 32, I felt motivated to learn dating and relationships

I spent the next 8 years (I am 40 now) doing that

And those 8 years have been 100% regret-free

Instead of wasting my time and energy on porn, I rechanneled them into becoming a better man

I didn’t get all the results that I want

But the important thing is that I am working on my goals instead of watching porn and jerking off

As long as I do the right thing, I feel good

I feel regret-free

Thank you for leaving my life, porn ❗

Do you feel motivated to go porn-free?

If my story resonates with you, then you may also benefit from a porn-free lifestyle

Think about this:

  1. How will you feel porn-free vs porn-full?
  2. Will you have fewer regrets when you stop devouring online images?
  3. Will you stop wasting your potential on fake sex?

My bet is that the answer is yes

Your life will change for the better

Napoleon Hill wrote about this in Think and Grow Rich almost 100 years ago

He said that it’s crucial to conserve the powerful sexual energy and rechannel it into creative pursuits

Ready to try the porn-free lifestyle?

Do a 30-day experiment and see for yourself whether NoFap makes sense for you

With that said, here’s how you can do it more easily

Go 100% Porn-Free

Since 2020, I’ve been helping people as a porn detox coach

I can help you in three ways:

  1. Take the basic version of Go 100% Porn-Free Course on Udemy, version 1.0. Since 2021, it’s been helping people create a system to follow for 30 days. At $20, this is the most affordable option.
  2. Take the full version of the course in my Academy. At $99, this is the most cost-effective option. And the most popular.
  3. Or take the full version of the course + 2 coaching sessions with me. At $299, this is the most costly version.

Check out this short video about the course:

 

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