Porn Detox – Uncover the Hero Version of Your Life in 30 Days

Are you considering porn detox?

I am so proud of you ❗

This might be one of the most important decisions you ever make in your life

It sure changed my life radically

When I watched porn in version 1.0 of my life, that was hell

The never-ending cycle of shame, guilt, wasted time, and opportunity cost

Now that I’m porn-free, I’m truly living version 2.0 of my life

If you want to be as happy as me, keep reading

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Porn detox success story

When people ask me whether they should go on a porn detox, I tell the story of a coaching client I had in Toronto

He is about 60 years old

He has been a porn user since his early teenage years

Back then, he would go to a store and rummage through pornography journals

Now it’s much simpler with online porn right in your face

He was spending 1 to 5 hours on porn every day

From 1 hour on weekdays to 5 hours on the weekend

And he also spent a lot of time and mental energy thinking about porn addiction

Planning and looking forward to each PMO episode

Fighting the urges

He reached out for my help and went on porn detox

For him, it lasted over 120 days

An amazing accomplishment, given that previously he was able to go on 4 days max

Now that he had a clear mind, he was able to develop awareness about his behavior

He saw the psychological deficit behind his PMO—depression

And to improve his life, he had to work on depression instead of escaping it with porn dopamine

With that said, what are some signs you need a porn detox?

How do I know if I need to go on a porn detox?

Do you recognize yourself in any of the examples below?

#1 You feel you can’t control pornography consumption

John would tell himself he would just take a peek…

He knew that he was deceiving himself but would still do it

30 minutes later, he would find himself looking for the “perfect scene” to jerk off to

And the images kept getting more intense—to the point that he felt like a degenerated pervert

#2 You think that porn-watching distracts you from something important

Naveen had a goal of building a career as a video game designer

He was working on his own game to build a portfolio that he could show to potential employers

But every time he sat down to work on the game, he felt bored

And he would turn to porn for some excitement

After wasting 30 minutes on PMO, he would feel tired

And also guilty because of the time lost

So he would have no energy or willpower to continue working—losing the entire day

#3 You don’t enjoy sex

When I was married to my first wife, I kept watching porn behind her back

I would sneak into the living room while she was sleeping at night

I would download a few videos and jerk off to them

So for the next few days, I wouldn’t want to have sex at all

(It was only later that I came to understand that my testosterone decreased after jerking off and I needed a few days to recover and restore my desire)

And on top of it, I was overstimulated by the beautiful porn images

(Beautiful❓Yes… But real❓ No ❗)

My real sex paled in comparison with those fake images

And felt quite boring

If you see yourself in any of these examples, then you might want to do a porn detox for the reasons below

Reasons to do a porn detox

Reason 1. Build awareness—uncover your psychological deficit

When you are addicted to porn, you spend a lot of time and mental energy thinking about porn

Looking forward to watching it

Fighting the urges

Because you’re focused on porn, you don’t see a bigger problem

That bigger problem is the root cause of porn-watching

It’s some sort of psychological deficit (PD): unhappiness, loneliness, etc.

You’ve come to rely on porn as a coping mechanism for that PD

So you stop watching porn, and now instead of thinking about porn, you think about what’s really wrong with your life

You have the time and mental energy to think about it

And you are in a place to resolve this PD instead of escaping it unconsciously

Reason 2. Normalize your dopamine by weaning off porn dopamine

Porn is a huge source of dopamine which is a neurotransmitter associated with motivation

When you are overstimulated with Porn Dopamine, you don’t want to do anything else

You are overstimulated

Your senses are dulled

Everything feels boring

But when you do a porn detox, your dopamine levels normalize

Suddenly you want to read a book or take a walk

These simple things start to feel great again

Your senses are heightened

You feel alive again

Reason 3. Get attracted to real women instead of overstimulating online images

Let’s face it, porn girls are too beautiful

And also too sexual

That’s because the porn industry needs to exaggerate beauty to overs

Porn makes you have unrealistic expectations

Of course, real women are not like that

When you look at a girl after watching porn, you don’t find her attractive

And by doing a porn detox, you normalize your expectations

Real women become attractive again

(And you also stop objectifying them)

With that said, this is how you can proceed with a porn detox

How to do a porn detox

The most practical approach to a porn detox is to do a 30-day challenge

These are the rules for the challenge:

  1. No porn
  2. No masturbation
  3. You can have sex as long as you don’t ejaculate

The first week will be very difficult

But as you keep going, your momentum and willpower will keep getting stronger

And soon you’ll feel that it’s all downhill from there

The key is to make it to 30 days

Most guys feel so amazing at that point that they never want to go back to porn

They use this success as motivation to go on an even larger Hero’s Journey

Best tools for a porn detox

Tool 1 — Awareness

Understanding more about the dangers of porn will help you see how deep this problem goes

Read up on porn addiction

Listen to other people talk about it

Journal about your porn addiction

Tool 2 — Mental diet

You need to motivate yourself constantly for making the right choice — not watching porn

Keep watching and listening to positive information such as self-help

Feeding your mind with uplifting messages will keep you off thoughts about porn

Tool 3 — Go slow

I like to say No to bad habits slowly

If I go cold turkey, I notice that my mind creates the craving and resistance

But if I start with small steps and small successes, I tend to build from those successes more easily

That’s why you may want to prime yourself before a full-blown 30-day detox

Start with one porn-free day

Then go to two and three days

When you are comfortable with that, go all the way to 30 days

Tool 4 — New habit

When you say No to porn, you need to say Yes to something else

When you stop feeding your mind with porn, it creates a void in your psyche

If you don’t feel this void, the craving will be strong

So make sure that you pick up a new habit that you will do consistently whenever an urge to watch porn comes up

Here are good examples:

  1. Go for a walk
  2. Read a book
  3. Practice a musical instrument

Tool 5 — Negative consequence

Create some sort of punishment for watching porn

That way, you won’t want to relapse because your brain will avoid the pain

Examples include:

  1. Donate money to a cause that you don’t support
  2. Cook a meal for someone you don’t like
  3. Clean your room

It’s important to apply the negative consequence immediately after a relapse

Sending a message to your mind that punishment is inevitable

Tool 6 — New challenge

Last but not least, you need to find a new and exciting project

Something that will occupy your thoughts, leaving little headspace for porn cravings

Here are my favorite examples:

  • New career or business — this is ideal
  • Finding love — let’s say you commit to making three cold approaches a day
  • New hobby like learning a new musical instrument

Our mind is quite easy to trick — it tends to focus on the challenge that’s in front of you

And you simply forget about everything else

Getting help with porn detox

Walking the porn-free journey alone can be difficult

But it gets easier when someone is guiding you every step along the way

I’ve been helping clients do porn detox for many years

And I’ve been porn-free myself for 8+ years

I’ve distilled my best insights in my course

It has all the tools, strategies, and motivation that you need to do a 30-day porn detox challenge

Three options

  1. Take the basic version of Go 100% Porn-Free Course on Udemy, version 1.0. Since 2021, it’s been helping people create a system to follow for 30 days. At $20, this is the most affordable option.
  2. Take the full version of the course in my Academy. At $99, this is the most cost-effective option. And the most popular.
  3. Or take the full version of the course + 2 coaching sessions with me. At $299, this is the most costly version.

Check out this short video about the course:

 

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