Welcome to this new day
I am so happy you are sticking to this journey
Addiction is like a tree
Branches and leaves are what you see in a tree
And with porn addiction what you see is the behavior you are addicted to
But there’s more to a tree
You don’t see what’s causing the branches and leaves to grow
It is the roots
This is the real power behind the tree
With addiction, there’s also a root
A root cause of the addiction
And to break free, you need to become aware of that root cause
Now, the challenge is that you keep thinking about the addiction itself
And you don’t have any time or energy or headspace to see that root cause—a bigger problem
I love this example of food
Let’s talk food for a second
Someone has a food addiction
She puts herself on a smart diet
It keeps her satiated
She takes her mind off thinking about food
And now she sees what is really wrong with her life
That thing that she’s trying to escape with food
Could be an intimate relationship gone wrong
Same thing with porn
So the key step is to push yourself to step away from porn addiction at least for a few days
It’s the hardest part, I know
But after you pushed yourself to do it,
You think about porn less often
And now you see that porn is not the problem
You have the time, energy, and headspace to dig for the root cause
You see that you need addiction to cover up the root cause
With that said, there are 3 most common root causes for porn addiction
Unhappiness
Let’s say you’re unhappy because you don’t have enough energy to kick ass
What’s the root cause?
A common root cause or message is this:
Unhappiness is there to tell you that you need to find your life purpose
The second one is boredom
You coast through life, uninspired.
Boredom is there to push you for creativity
Loneliness
You suffer from the lack of love and sex or the feeling of connection
Loneliness is there to push you to find a girlfriend
Now that you are aware of the root cause, deal with it rather than with the bad habit
If you are unhappy because of your health
Research your health situation and find a solution
Boredom
Get inspired by finding your life purpose
Loneliness
Socialize and build dating skills
Here’s one question that will help you
When was the time in your life when you didn’t watch porn?
What were you busy with back then?
How did you feel?
Re-create those times in your mind vividly
So your three steps are
1️⃣ Step away from the addiction
2️⃣ Dig for the root cause
3️⃣ Deal with the root cause
Easier said than done?
Yes
But possible?
For a hero like you — absolutely
I will see you tomorrow