Today’s a special day
Do you know what it is?
It’s a day when a new hero is being born
Welcome, and a great job!
When I was addicted to porn, I would be often sitting alone in my room
And I’d feel bored and watch porn
Or I’d feel horny
That happened because by being alone, I was in my head all the time
My ego was running me at those times
Telling me about all the things that were wrong
And how I needed a quick dopamine fix to make things right
Oh yeah
Been there, done that
But looking back now, I see that when I was around other people
My ego was basically silent
It didn’t push me to watch porn or masturbate
I was thinking about other people
Socializing
Engaging with them
Even having fun, God forbid
And another insight about socializing I have now, looking back is that
By spending time with porn instead of with people
I was doing a huge disservice to my social life
I never developed social skills
I was shy and introverted
I didn’t know how to talk to people
I always thought they were judging me for everything
I was especially shy around girls
As a result, I started dating late
And even more importantly, I hadn’t developed any relationship skills
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I didn’t understand my wife
And later she divorced me
So I hid the warning
I quit porn
I started socializing and talking to girls instead
After 8+ years of doing that, my relationship skills got so much better
I feel great around other people
And I’ve had a few amazing relationships
That I would have never been able to create if I had stayed with porn
So I want you to make socializing part of your strategy for quitting porn, too
Killing two birds with one stone
First
Stop spending time alone
Be around other people as much as possible
Especially at night because this is when you have less willpower to fight urges
By doing so, you will get out of your head
And silence your ego
And it’s also kind of hard to watch porn when others are around
Second
By socializing, you will develop social skills
You will see how great it is to engage with others
You will then use those skills for dating
And find a great girlfriend
One that you like and choose
Instead of the one that just falls in your lap by luck
That’s how you stop the negative cycle of being alone and watching porn
And create a virtuous cycle of getting better with socializing and not needing porn
The cycle of a hero
A hero right here
Do it today
I look forward to seeing you tomorrow