There you go!
It’s another day on your Hero’s Journey
It’s my privilege to be your companion and guide on this Journey
Today I want to give you a technique that helps to combat urges
It’s a technique that I use myself almost every day
It’s your brain that drives you to watch porn
But urges are not just a mental thing
They also have a physical component to them
Because your body and mind are connected
It is a feedback loop
When you have an urge in the brain, it also has a physical manifestation
One example of manifestation is tension
You might have a lot of tension in your body
Somewhere
And when you release that physical component of the urge, the mental component is easier to manage
Let me show you how I do it
Let’s say I see a pretty girl and get triggered
I am thinking about having sex with her
And that’s a risky territory because I can relapse
I stop my train of thought
I close my eyes
I start breathing in a circle
Breathe in
Without stopping
Breathe out
Without stopping
Breathe in
Without stopping
And then I will push all the air out of my lungs
And hold my breath as long as I can
When I breathe in after holding my breath, that’s already a huge relaxation
And then I scan my entire body for any remaining tension
For me, the most common places are
- Jaw
- Belly
- Groin
- Scalp
And release any remaining shreds of tension consciously
Let’s say, I will consciously relax my belly
If the urge is still there,
I will engage my physiology even more
I will think of all people that are laughing right now
And I will absorb all their laughter in my body
And laugh as hard as I can, really pushing myself
Since the body and mind are a feedback loop,
I literally trick my brain into believing that I am happy
And that’s how and why I know that I am not my urges
I am able to rise above them by engaging my physiology
In this very positive way
And you can do the same
1️⃣ Find the tension in your body
2️⃣ Release tension by relaxing
Do it today
Rise above the urges with me
And I know that today is difficult in terms of urges
But if you practice this technique
I promise that tomorrow will get easier
I will see you tomorrow