It’s good to see you pushing yourself
To become a hero
Here’s one trick to support you on our Hero’s Journey
I had this client from Toronto
He hired me as a porn detox coach
And he told me that whenever he felt depressed he would go driving
Because he liked it
And it would also keep his mind off whatever bad stuff it was focusing on
I told him to use this strategy for pornography urges
He tried it the same day
And it was very helpful
In fact so helpful that he went to 120+ days of no porn or masturbation with me
But why does it work anyway?
It’s usually your subconscious mind that pushes you to watch porn and masturbate.
It’s your lower self
It’s like a huge elephant
But in your conscious mind, you know that porn doesn’t contribute anything to your life
Including your long-term goals.
Do you have them by the way?!
That’s your higher self
It’s like a rider of that elephant
So there’s this distinction between the higher self and the lower self
But the problem is that the lower self — no matter how important it is to your survival—
It really doesn’t care about the agenda of the higher self
It only cares about the present moment
About instant gratification
About making sure that you survive right now
It feels unhappy
And simply pushes you to watch porn to make you happy
The solution is to silence your lower self
The good news is that there’s a relatively easy hack to work around that
See, another function of our subconscious mind is performing all these low-level tasks.
Something relatively simple that you did so many times that it is now automatic
Routines such as chewing, brushing teeth, or driving a car
Did you ever drive somewhere and then realize you were thinking about something else the whole time and don’t remember the road there?
You were not thinking consciously about driving
That’s because you delegated driving to your subconscious mind.
And you did some serious thinking with your conscious mind
So here’s how we hack urges
When you have an urge to watch porn or masturbate
You go… driving
You keep your subconscious mind busy
Not with an urge
But with this low-level task
That’s how you say bye-bye to the urge.
Another example is writing
When you have an urge,
You sit down and start writing your Single Motivating Factor
Or your life purpose
Writing is another low-level task that will keep your subconscious mind busy
You do that until you feel either motivated to do something productive toward your life purpose
Or just get bored
To the point that you say
I am so bored with this urge that I’d rather do something else
That’s how you manage the urge
And become a hero!
A hero right here
Thank you for another great day
I will see you tomorrow