I had a dream
You went porn-free for 30 days
And you were so proud
And I am so proud of you
Let’s talk about one powerful strategy that helps quit porn
Avoidance vs Allowing
In a study, two groups of women carried a container of chocolates with them.
Here’s what the researchers instructed them to do:
One group had to distract themselves from thinking about the chocolate.
The other group took out the chocolate and interacted with it: touch, smell, and so on.
And later in the day, both groups could actually eat the chocolate.
Who do you think ate more chocolate?
The first group
The one that distracted themselves
Why?
Because they craved it.
The other group ate less
Because they saw themselves as people who can eat the chocolate but choose not to
Same thing with porn.
When you avoid porn by distracting yourself from thinking about it, you want more of it.
You see yourself as an addict.
But if you stop avoiding and face your enemy in a controlled way,
You see yourself as a person who has the willpower not to watch porn excessively.
You do it again and again and that’s how you train your willpower.
So how do you do it specifically?
1️⃣ Don’t avoid porn.
When you have an urge, watch it.
But stop yourself at 1 or 2 minutes.
Or some other point that’s feasible and feels like success
2️⃣ You do this long enough, and porn loses its psychological allure.
You start seeing yourself as a person who has full control over porn watching.
Now, quitting porn this way is difficult but totally possible
Even if you doubt yourself
Even if it feels like an uphill battle
People are capable of so much more than they think
Let me give you an example
People used to think that a human body is not capable of running a mile in under 4 minutes.
But then Roger Bannister did it.
By the way, I tried it, too, but
And suddenly, many other athletes were able to do it as well.
See, all that potential was always there.
And people just didn’t realize this.
So believe in your potential.
You are way more powerful than you think you are.
I know it
You are taking the course
You are one of the few people who take action instead of watching passively
Your parents believe you can do anything
Your future children look up to you as a God who can do anything
Now you need to recognize that power in yourself
You can and will smash this habit
And one way to do it is the strategy we looked at today
Stop avoiding porn
But allow it in a controlled way
That’s how you flex your willpower muscle
It becomes stronger
And being porn-free gets easier
Stay strong today
I will see you tomorrow
One more thing before you go
Be a Hero
A hero right here