If you ask me, “Is NoFap worth it?”, my answer is an astounding yes!
I’ve been on NoFap for 8 years.
There are few things I hate in life but fapping is definitely one of them.
Here’s my account of NoFap experience and the many benefits of NoFap I’m so happy about.
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My account of staying on NoFap for years
I started masturbating when I was around 12.
When I had a girlfriend at 21 or a wife later at 25, I did it less but still did it.
At 27, I hit a very low point in my life and developed an addiction to fapping.
It gave me a quick escape from depression.
The problem was that instant gratification felt good but never lasted.
And it made me even more depressed.
On top of depression, I’d also feel shame and guilt.
I hated the feeling of lacking self-discipline and wasting time and energy.
When I was 31, I said enough and went NoFap.
I’ve been on it for 6 years so far.
And I had two short relapses that only reinforced how good it is for me.
Benefit 1: Feeling better about myself
For me, one of the best NoFap gains was stopping the pain that I felt after masturbating.
I would hate myself.
So much wasted time, struggle, guilt, wasted energy, shame.
And what for?
A quick escape that never made me happy in the first place.
What brought me genuine happiness was NoFap—finding the strength to quit masturbation and feel in control.
Benefit 2: Tackling challenges better
I used to go to fapping when I faced some sort of resistance.
Say, I would be translating a text from one language to another and run into something that I didn’t understand.
I felt like escaping that challenge and fapping offered a quick way to do so.
But when I was done, my energy and resolve that I needed to press on were even lower.
Now that I am free from fapping, I don’t look for an escape from challenges.
With NoFap, energy I would previously waste is preserved.
I sit there patiently and tackle the challenge.
A life coach Richard Harris said:
It feels like there is a building of some unquantifiable ‘vital energy’ inside me, and then it is redirected, or sublimated, into my work:
During No Fap, my business experienced tremendous growth.
I felt this energy push into other areas:
- I started getting up at 5:30am;
- I stopped taking “rest days” from the gym and my gains blew up;
- I stopped taking mid day “power naps.”
Benefit 3: Getting reattracted to real women
Actresses and models look too good.
Real women seem unattractive compared to them.
After quitting fapping, I felt so much more attracted to women.
I was able to appreciate women for their inner beauty.
Not just the physical beauty that porn wires us to focus on.
I enjoyed holding hands, deep conversations, spending time outside, planning, dreaming together.
This is a whole new level of enjoying women—one where the answer to the question “Is NoFap even worth it?” is obvious.
Porn and masturbation pale in comparison to it.
Benefit 4: Rechanneling the sexual energy into building a relationship
When I feel a sexual desire, I have two options.
The first and convenient one is quick release by fapping.
But with fapping out of the question now, the only option left is actually finding a girl.
Therefore, my sexual desire pushes me to procreate.
So I go out and do the thing that is good and healthy for me: I build a relationship with a girl.
Benefit 5: NoFap depression improved my self-discipline
One thing that makes quitting PMO a challenge is NoFap depression.
One week after quitting, I experienced PMO withdrawal symptoms:
- Lack of motivation to do anything
- Intense mood swings between euphoria and depression or tiredness and hyperactivity
Not everyone has these symptoms but they are common nonetheless.
It’s your brain fighting for high dopamine levels it got used to.
Because you lavished your brain with tons of dopamine, it got lazy and reduced the number of dopamine receptors.
That’s why it’s difficult for you to feel pleasure from simple things now.
But after you quit PMO, a reverse process occurs in your brain.
It increases the number of dopamine receptors so that it can still feel pleasure from less stimulating activities.
Going through this process requires willpower and coping with depression.
But for me, this was a blessing in disguise.
By persevering and staying committed to NoFap, my self-discipline improved.
I strengthened my will to keep on doing what’s uncomfortable rather than seek an escape.
This habit alone made NoFap worth it for me.
Here’s an account of my NoFap depression:
Benefit 6: Increased confidence
Back when I masturbated, I felt shy and awkward.
Because I had to hide my PMO habit, I developed a fear that others were watching and judging me constantly.
So yeah, I was a mess.
But six years into my journey, I’ve never been so confident in my life as I’m now.
I talk to strangers, clients, or women I hit on confidently.
I never take myself seriously. In fact, I love making fun of my blunders.
To be clear: getting there wasn’t easy. It required a lot of inner and outer work alongside NoFap.
But every challenge I faced was worthwhile.
Benefit 7: No need to clear my browser history
I absolutely love this one.
I didn’t want anyone to know about my PMO addiction.
So I had to clear my browser history and delete downloaded images and videos after masturbating.
And there was something humiliating about that for me.
Hiding like this was contrary to my identity because I always valued transparency and authenticity.
Now that I’ve been clean for years, I love that I don’t need to hide anymore:
- I’ve kept my browser history intact for a long time.
- I can make screen videos without worrying that something embarrassing would pop up.
- I don’t feel any porn anxiety anymore.
Benefit 8: Maximizing my potential and discovering more of it
I remember one particular day when I wasted several hours a day on PMO.
And I felt tired after that.
As a result, I didn’t do anything productive that day, staying in a lazy mode.
You might think that it’s okay to have a lazy day like that.
And I agree—as long as you don’t feel guilt.
And I was having tons of guilt.
I felt I had tons of potential and PMO was stopping me from realizing it.
When I finally stopped PMO, I could do so much more with my life:
- I started running 20K marathons.
- I moved to Canada from Russia which was my lifelong dream.
- I built a translation business that’s been active for 15 years now.
- I was able to work 16-hour days if necessary, without getting bored or distracted.
- I took my family to ski resorts all across Europe.
Benefit 9: I was able to see what was on the other side
I heard other people talking about all these benefits of NoFap.
And I wanted to see those benefits for myself.
When I did this, they were so good that I never wanted to go back.
Looking back, I realize now that if I hadn’t done that, I would have deprived myself of the ability to see what’s possible.
That said, I believe it’s important to give it a shot and do a 90-day challenge.
If you don’t like the other side, you can go back.
But at least, you’ll know that you saw it and made a conscious choice.
Want to know more about NoFap benefits?
Stopping excessive masturbation was one of the best decisions in my life.
What’s the alternative?
Shame, guilt, and regret.
PMO is just not worth it.
Check out my definitive guide to learn about other NoFap benefits in 2022.
Is No Fap worth it for a lifetime? Still wondering?
I’ve been on NoFap for 8 years. No Fap is different things to different people. Here’s my program:
No masturbation or edging
Ejaculation in sex about once a week
I found this kind of NoFap protocol very healthy and motivating
Low mental energy — I kept thinking about fapping
Low decisiveness — I avoided making decisions and procrastinated
Low confidence — When I saw a girl I liked… I said screw it and went home miserable to fap
I have my mental energy for things that matter
I make decisions quickly and commit to them
When I see a girl I like… I say screw it and approach her
Is No Fap worth it? Best thing since sliced bread
Is NoFap worth doing? Still wondering?
Here’s one final piece of NoFap motivation:
How would you like it if your son was a PMO addict?
If not, then it’s time to be a role model.
Even if he isn’t born yet.
Okay, you’re sold. But here’s a key question you might have.
How do I stop masturbating? (I feel like I am addicted.)
Here’s a basic strategy to stop masturbating that worked for me. By using it, I quit watching porn and jerking off 8 years ago.
1️⃣ Create a punishment for excessive or compulsive masturbation. This could be cleaning your room or donating money to a charity that you don’t support.
Every time you masturbate, you get up immediately and apply that punishment. It’s painful and your brain doesn’t like pain. Soon enough, your brain will hate masturbation.
2️⃣ Focus on your Life Purpose.
Your Life Purpose is something that gets you excited about your life. It gets you out of bed in the morning.
A male mind tends to focus on one thing. If you give masturbation to it, your brain will focus on masturbation.
Give Life Purpose to your brain instead and get passionate about life. Now you put all your mental energy into your Life Purpose instead of masturbating.
After all, without wasting hours on porn and jerking off, you have so much time to do something beautiful.
3️⃣ Be patient. See the distinction between short-term pleasure and long-term contentment.
Masturbating gives you a quick hit of pleasure right now. It feels good right now but then you feel terrible for a long time.
But if you don’t masturbate, you will feel content with making the right choice for a long time. This will happen as long as you wait patiently instead of giving up and going for the short-term pleasure.
Get professional help for faster results
I compiled the lessons learned from my experience with NoFap and my work with clients in my articles and videos on this NoFap blog–all available for free.
But many people ask me for personal guidance and support along their journey:
- You might have questions you can’t find answers to elsewhere.
- You want to speak with someone who understands what you’re going through.
- You need practical methods to recover and stay porn-free.
If that’s you, I’m here to help you in person as a NoFap coach.
You have three options:
- Take the basic version of Go 100% Porn-Free Course on Udemy, version 1.0. Since 2021, it’s been helping people create a system to follow for 30 days. At $20, this is the most affordable option.
- Take the full version of the course in my Academy. At $99, this is the most cost-effective option. And the most popular.
- Or take the full version of the course + 2 coaching sessions with me. At $299, this is the most costly version.
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