Is NoFap Legit? (5 Dumbest Mistakes That People Make With PMO)

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The question “Is NoFap legit?” makes me uncomfortable.

I know I should’ve asked it long ago—when I was a teenager.

But I asked it only when I was 31.

As a result, I lost too much time and effort on porn addiction.

Here’s my sad story so that you don’t make the same mistakes.

And in the end, I’ll share the crucial lessons learned.

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Developing porn addiction

I started fapping even before I was a teenager.

It began as a pretty much unconscious habit.

I’d feel bored and masturbate because I knew it’d make me feel good.

But then I discovered porn.

My friend found his parents’ “secret” videotape.

Watching it was exciting and that was the beginning of my addiction.

I remember how one day, I wanted to watch porn badly.

So I went around the apartment looking for my parents’ videotape.

That was crazy because I didn’t know if there was a videotape.

That’s how addicted I became.

Little did I know, PMO (Porn, Masturbation, Orgasm) was going to have a terrible impact on my life.

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Missing out on dating opportunities

I didn’t have a girlfriend until 21.

I developed crushes just as everyone else but kept them to myself.

The reason was my shyness around girls.

Instead of approaching them, I masturbated to porn.

And then I felt shame and became even shyer.

This vicious cycle left me with a major problem:

I didn’t know anything about women.

As a result, I approached girls rarely and awkwardly.

And I paid for this lack of experience dearly.

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Consequence 1: Lost opportunity

I didn’t have a girlfriend until 21.

If I had realized NoFap was legit, I’d have started dating at 16.

And I’d have had 5 more years of dating.

It saddens me to think about it now, especially because I craved dating all that time.

I just didn’t know how.

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Consequence 2: Destroying my marriage due to no experience with women

At 21, I got lucky and met a great girl who would later become my wife.

Our first year was fantastic.

But then our relationship kept getting worse.

Because of my lack of experience, I didn’t know how to make it work in the long term.

I didn’t know any better than to treat my wife as if she were a man.

Can you believe it?

As a result, we fought a lot and resented each other.

No wonder we divorced after 11 years together.

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Finding out NoFap is legit and learning women in my thirties

At that time, I tried NoFap and realized it was legit.

Even though I suffered from depression while on NoFap at first, I got better eventually.

And it gave me the motivation to find a girl.

Finally, I started dating women and learning about them—15 years after I should’ve started to do that.

That’s quite late but not too late.

It would’ve been too late if I had still kept masturbating to porn.

That’s why I’m so happy about going NoFap.

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Why is NoFap legit?

That said, here’s why I’m a great believer in NoFap.

I just wish someone had given me this NoFap motivation years ago.

Lesson 1: PMO robs you of dating experiences.

Let’s say, you develop a crush.

Normally, you should approach the girl and ask her out.

But with porn addiction and shyness, you go to porn as a safe alternative.

This happens again and again until you’re 30 or 40 and it’s too late.

You lost all those golden years when you should’ve dated women:

  1. You missed a lot of happy moments.
  2. You don’t know women, which makes it difficult to be in a relationship.

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Lesson 2: PMO robs you of a great relationship.

Porn addiction kills your relationship slowly:

  1. You have to hide and feel shame. As a result, you don’t love her as much as you could—a huge part of your energy goes into PMO.
  2. She is likely to have suspicions about it, which makes her anxious.
  3. Sooner or later, she’ll learn about your addiction and this will break her heart.

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Lesson 3: PMO takes energy away from important things in life.

Relationships aside, PMO is detrimental to other important areas of your life.

Say, you want to quit your job and start your own business.

But every time you get down to it, you feel uncertain and uncomfortable.

And you use PMO to escape that unpleasant feeling rather than persevere.

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Lesson 4: PMO gives you a false sense of accomplishment.

For example, you know regular exercise is good for you.

After exercise, you feel a sense of accomplishment.

Now let’s say you’re at home and don’t want to hit the gym today.

You know you should but you go to masturbation instead.

A surge of dopamine from PMO makes you feel good.

It creates a false sense of accomplishment.

But in reality, you’ve robbed yourself of real fulfillment.

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Lesson 5: PMO robs you of life itself.

Suppose, you spend about 30 minutes a day on masturbation.

365 days × 0.5 hour = 182.5 hours per year

And let’s say your average time awake each day is 16 hours.

182.5 / 16 = 11.4 days

That’s more than 11 days wasted on masturbation each year.

To me, that’s too much of life to give away.

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Go NoFap with coaching

If you need help going NoFap, check out my coaching services.

I wish I had someone in my teenage years to open my eyes to the benefits of NoFap.

That’d have helped me save tremendous amounts of time and energy.

Today, I want to be that person for you so that you don’t feel my pain.

Check out my “Free NoFap Tutorial: 5 Proven Tips to Transform Yourself Now.” This is a free video with practical tips that will make NoFap easier.



  1. Roger

    You should quarantine for the rest of your life, thanks for the no good advice

    • Roman Mironov

      Thank you for your feedback, Roger. Yes, it doesn’t work for everyone.

    • Isaac G

      No good advice? He just gave the most eye opening advice a teen with a porn / masturbation habit could ask for. If you can’t give up pom just say so bozo? Many fools beat their meat but only the strongest defeat it.

  2. Mike

    Many men, me included, can relate to this story. NoFap, Social media, etc distorts expectations and rob us of real world experiences. Stay strong brothers! Thanks for sharing.

    • Roman Mironov

      Hi Mike,

      Thank you for reading and commenting. Yes, I will choose real-world experiences any day of the week.

  3. dypanha

    i want to stop pmo help me.

  4. Swagat

    Yes I want to quit PM0 . I am In my 20’s. And I really want to change my life. Its 3rd of September today means I have 120 days left to be the different myself. I want to hello a different me next year.
    If you can help me with this I really appreciate you and welcome you.

  5. Mduduzi

    Nofap and good things come


    Thank you so much Roman my big bro, You are saving people’s lives from being destroyed.

    • Roman Mironov

      Thank you for your kind words! What’s helping you most?