5 Characteristics of a Narcissist You Must Develop (The Real Secret to Their Self-Confidence)

Let me share 5 characteristics of a narcissist that everyone must cultivate.

Narcissists can drive us crazy.

Still, there is something about them that makes us think, “I wish I were that confident, too.”

You are about to learn the real secret to their outrageous self-confidence and happiness.

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Characteristics of a narcissist in my life

I have a cousin who is a narcissist.

Although he can be a nuisance, he’s also a role model of positive traits of a narcissist for me.

I observed him and cultivated those traits in myself, without taking them to extremes as he does.

And they changed my life.

#1: Loving ourselves

My cousin loves himself a lot.

For example, he sleeps 10 hours every night.

He also pampers himself with things such as tanning or massage.

I don’t do that enough because I am all about productivity and results.

I put too much pressure on myself and need to love myself more as he does.

Why is it good?

Because it helps me feel good all the time and not just at those times when I am super productive.

As a result, I feel better, I relax more, I’m happier and healthier.

Louise Hay said:

There is only one thing that heals every problem, and that is: to know how to love yourself.

#2: Healthy self-esteem

Another characteristic that I see a lot in my cousin is thinking high of himself.

For example, he has very high standards for women that he meets.

They must be gorgeous, smart, and successful. Wow!

He trained himself to believe that he is worthy of a high-quality woman.

And he is not afraid of gorgeous women as a result.

When he sees one, he goes right up to her and chats her up.

A great role model for people like me who are more introverted and shy.

Man with healthy self-esteem

#3: Setting boundaries

My cousin loves saying no to people.

And he enjoys observing and soaking in their reaction.

It’s deeply satisfying to honor our priorities instead of letting others take advantage of us.

I need to do this more often.

I love helping people too much and sometimes do that to the detriment of my own priorities.

#4: Unlearning to compare ourselves to others

My cousin never compares himself to others.

He is in a league of his own.

That’s one characteristic of a narcissist that we just can’t overdo.

See, most unhappiness in life comes from comparisons.

We compare ourselves to neighbors, movie stars, and our ideal selves (“I should’ve been better”).

But it’s a rat race really.

What happens when we get what we want?

We aren’t happy.

We don’t have the time for that because we immediately set our eyes on the next target.

I’d rather sing the song that my cousin sings to himself:

#5: Detachment from outcome

My cousin always does what he wants and he couldn’t care less about failure or rejection.

He thinks that he shares his gift with the Universe.

When he doesn’t get what he wants, he thinks, “Well, too bad for them. They don’t know what they are missing.”

For me, being detached from the outcome like this is a great role model for killing my fear of rejection.

I just do my thing, my very best, and look at the result almost indifferently.

Actionable tip: cultivate these characteristics of a narcissist

Do you have a narcissist in your life?

Look who is lucky here!

Use them as a role model.

Observe them for these 5 characteristics of a narcissist.

And cultivate them in yourself in a positive way.

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