How to Stop Using Porn for Anxiety or Depression

NoFap is an exciting way to improve your life.

You stop watching porn and…

It gives you confidence, mental clarity, and vitality.

But two triggers hold us hostage to masturbation and porn: anxiety and depression.

is porn the right answer?

Read this article to understand them, and it will help you quit porn and jerking off.

And I’ll also give you my best tool for dealing with them.

Does anxiety or depression cause you to watch porn?

Thanks to the ideas I’m going to share with you in this article, you’ll become more aware of these two triggers.

Trigger 1: Anxiety
Trigger 2: Depression
Does porn work as self-medication?
The right answer

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Without further ado, let’s start with trigger number 1.

Trigger 1: Anxiety

Here’s a story from a NoFap client, Jay.

His mother and father were very critical.

Jay had critical parents

They had many expectations and kept pushing him to become what they wanted.

If Jay did something that pleased the father, the father gave him approval and love.

If Jay didn’t live up to the expectations, the father withdrew approval.

So Jay grew up seeking his parents’ validation and saw any negative reactions as rejections.

Today, he has fear of failure or rejection that causes crippling anxiety.

Jay became a Type A personality.

Whenever he reaches out to someone, he craves a positive response. Otherwise, he gets upset.

So he often chooses not to reach out to people at all.

We develop porn addiction to cover up anxiety because it's too uncomfortable

To cope with anxiety, he developed a porn addiction at 12 years old.

He started by buying porn magazines and trading them with others.

Now many decades later, he finds himself watching porn online and masturbating the whole weekend.

And he feels this addiction drains his life energy.

Jay’s story is quite common.

People develop all kinds of anxiety growing up.

Another example is anxiety around COVID-19.

anxiety around COVID-19

People are anxious about getting COVID.

And this anxiety triggers them to use porn as a coping mechanism.

Now let’s look at the second trigger.

Trigger 2: Depression

Depression is another pattern that causes us to watch porn as a coping mechanism.

Let me share how I used porn before going NoFap.

My family made me a neurotic perfectionist

I got a lot of programming about how I should be while growing up, especially from my grandmother.

And I am grateful for it because this is where my work ethic, discipline, and passion came from.

But my upbringing also made me a neurotic perfectionist.

One example is when my ex-wife’s dog died accidentally 13 years ago.

I adored that dog because I associated my love for my ex-wife with him.

Taking him on long walks together or laughing at the funny things that he did or taking him to a veterinarian—great memories!

As a result, I developed mild depression.

I blamed myself for not preventing the dog’s death.

I escaped depression with porn, but it came with guilt

I also thought that my life had been so much better before and now the good days were over.

I kept playing these thoughts in my mind, unwilling to accept the new reality and driving myself deeper into depression.

And I escaped that depression with tons of porn.

And it helped me release that emotion and not feel it for a few minutes.

But then I would inevitably feel even worse—because of guilt.

I stayed depressed for 2.5 years. That’s too much time to waste on depression.

So depression is a huge trigger for watching porn as a coping mechanism.

And it’s often the result of the programming from your parents.

They kept criticizing you and turned you into a perfectionist.

You use porn as self-medication

Now you beat yourself up for past mistakes such as missed opportunities.

You tell yourself a story about how you didn’t live up to your expectations.

And you go to porn to escape these thoughts.

That said, let’s look at how porn “helps” you.

Does porn work as self-medication?

You learned porn at a young age as a coping mechanism for anxiety or depression.

It seemed like the best idea ever at the time.

But now that you are older and more mature, you realize it’s childish and unsustainable.

waste of time and potential

It leaves you feeling even worse after jerking off: you regret wasting your time and potential.

But what’s a sustainable solution for anxiety and depression?

Here it is.

The right answer

You want to stop living in the past or future.

Where should I live—past, future, or present?

With depression, you’re living in the past.

With anxiety, you’re living in the future.

But you can’t run from the past or future.

Neither with porn nor with any other band-aid.

The answer is to live in the present and take positive action now.

Your feeling of self-worth and confidence comes not from running but from taking action.

If you run, you only make it worse

If you run, you only make it worse.

Admit that porn is self-medication that doesn’t work.

You’re always in pain outside of those few short minutes when you watch it.

And you deplete your energy and resolve to the point that you feel listless.

start taking positive action

Set goals for your career, health, or relationships.

Work on them every day.

When you accomplish a goal, you get dopamine and a feeling of achievement.

And you’re motivated to work on the next goal.

That’s how you live in the present, forgetting about the past and working on your future.

anxiety or depression might get worse initially

And remember that after quitting porn, anxiety or depression might get worse initially.

It’s like you stopped running from the monster, turned around, and looked it in the eye.

I know it’s difficult. But that’s part of your path of spiritual growth.

You learn to be comfortable with discomfort.

And soon enough, it gets easier.

And you don’t need porn as a coping mechanism anymore.

Your biggest growth in life comes from facing a challenge head-on and tackling it.

That’s how you uncover the root issue and deal with it.

As a result, you heal and you become a stronger person with tons of perseverance.

And that feels fantastic!

There you have it, an alternative to using porn for anxiety or depression.

Don’t just read and forget! Take action now

Check out my “Free NoFap Tutorial: 5 Proven Tips to Transform Yourself Now.” This is a free video with practical tips that will make NoFap easier.

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